Negative behavior can be quite a downer. Once upon a time, I had a colleague with daily adverse energy. In our discussions she would never cease to complain about everything she could think about–job, family, friends, health. She also was highly cynical of others, often doubting and severely judging their intentions. To say the least, to talk to her was not an enjoyable experience.
I felt totally drained the first time we had a conference. Even if we were speaking for only 30 minutes, after our discussion I hardly had any power remaining. It felt like someone literally sucked my life away and it took me a few hours to wear off the impacts. The next few times we talked about the same thing. I soon found out that I had to develop an action plan to tackle this type of adverse energy. After all, in my life she wasn’t going to be the only adverse guy I met.
I created a number of important strategies to deal efficiently with adverse individuals. They worked wonderful things in my own lives and Marc and myself are using them to help hundreds of weekly coaching and course students. I hope that in them, too, you will discover value …
1. Set boundaries and apply them.
It is difficult to cope with individuals who are adverse and fail to concentrate on alternatives. You want individuals to join your pampered group 24/7 so you can feel more comfortable. And it may be because you do not wish to be regarded as insane or rude that you feel forced to listen to their complaints, but it is a fine line between listening and getting drawn into the adverse emotional drama.
By setting boundaries and distancing yourself where necessary, you can prevent this tragedy. Please think this: would you like to sit next to them all day inhaling the second-hand smoke, if a adverse individual were cigarettes smokers? No, you wouldn’t–you wouldn’t get away. So go ahead and take a breath when you have to.
Another excellent way to establish limitations is to ask a adverse individual how they are trying to resolve the issue that they complain of when distancing themselves in the short run. They will often either rest or redirect the discussion, at least momentarily, in a more harmonious direction.
2. Do not just respond – be mindful of the situation
A response is a warm, thoughtless emotional explosion in the minute that is generally driven by your ego (as human beings, when we are unconnected to our logical mind), we are most likely to respond. It could only take a split second before your intuition starts, offering you some outlook, or it could take over to the extent you act on it. If after coping with a person you feel upset or flush
In short, you don’t react by throwing insults at anyone with a adverse attitude. Maintain your dignity and don’t fall to their levels. True power is courageous enough for your head to wander away from the senselessness.
3. Choose a positive topic
The adverse approaches of some people are driven by certain apparently harmless subjects. For instance, when we speak about his work, one of my colleagues becomes a highly toxic self-victimizer. Regardless of what I say, she is going to complain of everything about her work and when I attempt to intercept favorable remarks, she rolls with more negativity right over them. This obviously becomes quite a damping discussion.
If the individual you speak to is stuck in a subject which brings you down, you may be aware of their adverse feelings too profoundly rooted to tackle in an unanimous discussion. If you are in a comparable discussion. Your best bet is to bring a fresh subject to the mood. Simple things like funny memories, friendships, private stories of achievement and other sorts of things
4. Provide positive resolutions and avoid discussing negative issues.
Where and how your attention is focused determines your mental state. You generate and prolong negatives and stress when you zero in on the challenges you are facing. You generate a feeling of self-efficency that produces beneficial feelings and decreases stress by shifting your focus on actions that can enhance your conditions.
The same precise rule applies to adverse individuals–it only intensificates your pain to determine how stressful and hard they are by empowering them. Stop thinking about how troubled this individual is, and instead concentrate on how you will deal positively with their behaviour. This makes your driver’s seat more efficient and more efficient.
5. Keep an emotional separation from the views of others.
To keep stress at distance, maintaining a degree of emotional separation is essential. It is essential for your emotional health and happiness that negative people (or anyone else in this regard) do not put the weight of their insufficiency on your back. It all depends on your appreciation and therefore your faith in yourself.
People who efficiently handle their life are usually people who operate inside–i.e. people who understand that achievement and goodness come from inside (interior control locus). Negative people usually work externally, i.e. blame for anything that happens or doesn’t (internal control locus).
If the views of others are based on your sense of satisfaction and self-worth, you are no longer in control of your happiness. Know that. Know that. When individuals are emotionally powerful, they do not take away the inappropriate views or spiteful comments of anyone. They feel great about something they have accomplished.
Truth be told, you’re never as good as everyone says when you win, and you’re never as terrible as they tell you when you lose. The important thing is what you’ve learned, and what you’re doing with it.
We cannot control everyone’s emotions but we can change the situation on how we respond. Have you also experienced this kind of situations? Leave a comment below and share us your experience.
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The days are now gone when companies can treat social networks as a background or an additional marketing channel. Social media platforms today provide a company with an opportunity to show its value and to strengthen its voice consistently. Social networking is the perfect platform for customers to ask questions, give certificates and make air complaints. No company may ignore the importance of its presence in social media because it affects how people perceive its brand.
So what can you do to promote the success of your brand in 2019 via social media?
1. Personal branding is increasingly important for business branding
Setting a real human face to a brand name helps to build loyalty, especially in small businesses. A brand that is more related and has the human aspect naturally gains more trust, and trust is crucial to establishing relationships.
One way to humanize a brand is to encourage a company owner’s personal brand or a senior manager. This tactic has been used by many institutions through guest blogging, podcast, webinars and other publicity activities. This has become a key feature of many organisations. By helping your audiences learn about the character and expertise of company leadership, a company can build its reputation for its brand.
2. Long-form content to impact SEO
Word counts are not only the prominent impact of an article on the search engine results pages. However, SEO experts are in agreement that long-form content can provide an edge for you.
Although a high quality article with 1,600 words probably outranks an article with 500 words of a high-quality value, Google does not penalize blog posts if it fails to attain a certain amount of word count threshold. This is why I believe we see more publishers who require guest authors to submit articles with at least 1000 words or more.
I think we’re going to see more blogs that include long-form content and include them in their strategies for content. Thus, companies that have found no SEO traction in short articles could want to “go a long way” and add more comprehensive articles, rich with information and insight, both to attract readers and to give Google a more favorable reason to classify them.
3. Acceleration of personalized marketing
The pressure is stronger, as more companies dig into their data and use it to develop customized marketing campaigns that target the interests of people at different points in their purchaser journey.
Customers expect brands to customize special offers and discounts for their wishes and requirements. More enterprises need to think about targeted social media advertising and re-targeting campaigns in order to meet that expectation.
As the demand for individualized content increases, I expect that social platforms will continue to refine their targeting offers.
4. Promotion of video as the preferred content form
Live streaming continues to be a powerful way for people to participate in social media. Two thirds of all internet traffic in 2017 were streaming video, according to statistics compiled by Go-Globe. By 2020, video content is estimated to be 82% of internet traffic.
I see the prominence of the video closely linked with the first trend I mentioned–the influence of personal branding on the brand. Video enables an enterprise to face the company. It allows prospects and clients to know who is leading and operating in a company. Video provides companies with a chance not only to show what they are doing but also “who” they are.
5. “Pay to play” — the path to increased exposure
With the decreasing organic reach of business content, most businesses will need to invest in sponsored posts, boosted posts, and social media ads if they are to remain top of their minds.
Fortunately, publicity in the social media must not break the bank; a small sum of money can take a long way.
The only trend you can rely on year by year is for companies to change their approach to social media, to some extent, so that they can gain greater awareness and increase customer commitment.
The trend is that following them will not guarantee success — I advocate taking social media trends into account but evaluate them carefully and make sure you are always consistent with your brand and business efforts before leaping into your bandwagon before incorporating them in your marketing strategy.