Struggled? 5 Simple ways of avoiding burnout

Most modern success stories read like Greek myth adaptations. Our role models are remarkable demigods such as Oprah, Tony Robbins and Beyoncé— we admire them and study them with awe, aim high and take our own leaps as they lead the way. The hero is the entrepreneur or career rock star, on a journey built from accomplishing half a dozen incredible feats and still fitting before dinner in Pilates. Such achievements are our new currency and our symbols of status.

While we strive to be our happiest and healthiest, financial success is also achieved through long hours and hard work. As we reach our “best life,” we aim to balance work – life and feel bad when we don’t feel we’ve achieved it.

Roughly everyone is spread thin today, which can develop into stress – related burnout and eventually disease if left unchecked. But this way it doesn’t have to be. I found a remarkably easy way to avoid falling into the burnout trap:

1. Don’t be busy with business mistakes.

Look at your workload and use this simple question for each item on your task list: “Will the effects of this task have a positive, lasting impact on my life and business life?” If the answer is no, it probably won’t be worth it.

2. There’s no self – made thing — so get good when you ask for help.

Use this simple formula to send requests to others: identify who can help you, ask them if you can send them a request, make the specific request as long as it takes, and thank them profusely for helping you. Ask them who they think will if they don’t help. Your success is directly commensurate with your ability to seek help.

3. Keep Sunday sacred.

There’s a reason why world religions have a sacred rest day — it’s necessary to maintain emotional well-being and health. The Buddhists have a simple practice called “Circle Day” when, in the middle of the week, they take a full day off and use it to rest, meditate, create art, and care for themselves. And it works; I return to my work with new insight, boosted creativity and a renewed sense of curiosity when I take time to do nothing.

4. Pay attention to your adrenals.

Stress taps our adrenal glands and causes exhaustion in our bodies, and by drinking more caffeine we often cover it up. My energy increased exponentially when I started taking Standard Process Drenamin supplements. You can also take supplements from Holy Basil or drink Holy Basil tea to help the body stop producing cortisol— the stress hormone that ages and exhausts us. I do both now, and my focus, clarity, and ability to achieve great goals has grown beyond anything I ever thought possible.

5. Meditate (so you don’t have to medicate).

Many of the most successful people in the world are doing it. Start by setting your five – minute digital timer. Then sit comfortably and deeply inhale for a five count through your nose and exhale for another five counts. Repeat this again and again until beeping the timer. You can increase as much as you can.

Spreading ourselves thin is a tendency most of us have in our quest to succeed, but it’s not a lifestyle we can’t counterbalance with some simple, healthy habits. So here’s to your balance and your success on your own hero’s journey—and may it be burnout free!

8 Ways to Effectively Prioritize the Things on Your To-Do List

Priorities are important things — I know, you know that. But many of us are guilty of the habit of reacting on — and off — our to – do list to the urgent things, rather than responding to the important ones.

Important activities should be of high priority as they are the things that contribute most to our goals. They have more long-term impact and should help us to achieve our goals as much as possible. Usually, urgent activities are more of a short-term nature and may or may not relate to our overall goals and usually do not make significant contributions. Instead, they make endless demands on our time by pressing us every day.

Between the urgent and the important there is a constant tension. And because today’s important things rarely need to be done — and the urgent thing almost always needs to be done — there is a critical need to learn how to set proper priorities so that our visions, goals, and desires can be better met.

Do not prioritize on the basis of who gave you the work ; fit it for the big picture on the basis of its importance and urgency. Most people don’t take the time to prioritize this time. They are usually reactive, so try to be proactive in a concerted effort.

How much time can you gain by changing your habits — by prioritizing them more effectively? Here are eight tips you can apply to daily tasks:

1. Create lists

Focusing and multitasking help with priority notes and lists.

2. Set your daily planning priorities.

To make room for productive items, eliminate or minimize unproductive to – do items from your daily list.

3. Learn when your high-energy time is.

When you have the most energy gains minutes through more effective work, schedule your priority work.

4. Sort emails early in the day.

And quickly appropriate categorization of each piece — now, future, trash. Because each piece is addressed only once, you’re gaining time all day long.

5. Simplified email request.

Request that people send you priority emails with clear bullet points, not long narratives, to spell out the actions you need. Set the example by sending only effective, bullet – pointed emails.

6. Write down your goals before returning phone calls.

To gain time by communicating more quickly and effectively.

7. Make your reading a priority.

By learning newsletters, articles and books from the skim industry. Then just read what gives you real value.

8. Create and follow a written agenda for each meeting.

By learning newsletters, articles and books from the skim industry. Then just read what gives you real value.

10 Tips to Achieve Anything You Want in Life

1. Focus on commitment, not motivation.

How committed to your goal are you? How important is it for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, there will be motivation.

• Here’s how to focus on commitment.

2. Seek knowledge, not results.

Focusing on the excitement of discovery, improvement, exploration, and experimentation will always fuel your motivation. If you focus solely on results, your motivation will be like the weather, the minute you hit a storm it will die. Focusing on the journey is the key, not the destination. Continue to think about what you are learning along the way and what you can improve.

• Here’s how to seek knowledge.

3. Make the journey fun.

It’s a great game! The minute you make it serious, there’s a big chance it’s going to start carrying a heavy emotional weight and you’re going to lose perspective and get stuck again.

• Here’s how to get rid of stagnating thoughts.

4. Get rid of stagnating thoughts.

Thoughts influence feelings and feelings to determine how you view your work. You have a lot of thoughts in your head, and you always have a choice of which ones to focus on: those that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or those that will move you forward (excitement, experimenting, trying new things, stepping out of your comfort zone).

• Here’s how to get rid of stagnating thoughts.

5. Use your imagination.

After getting rid of negative thoughts, the next step is to use your imagination. You are full of positive energy when things go well, and you need to be even more energetic when you are experiencing difficulties. Rename your situation. If you keep repeating I hate my work, what feelings will those words evoke? It’s an imagination matter! At the most boring job, you can always find something to learn from even the worst boss in the world. I have a great exercise for you: think and say only positive things for three days. See what’s going on.

• Here’s how to use your imagination.

6. Stop being nice to yourself.

Motivation means action and results are achieved through action. Your actions sometimes fail to deliver the results you want. So you’d rather be nice to yourself and not be in a difficult situation. You are waiting for the perfect timing, a chance, while you are driving into stagnation and sometimes even depression. Get out there, challenge yourself, even if you’re afraid, do something you want to do.

• Here’s how to stop being nice to yourself.

7. Get rid of distractions.

There will always be meaningless things and distractions in your way, especially those simple, usual things you prefer to do instead of focusing on new challenging and meaningful projects. Learn to focus on the most important thing. Write a list of time-wasters and be responsible for not doing them.

• Here’s how to get rid of distractions.

8. Don’t rely on others.

You should never expect others, not even your partner, friend or boss, to do it for you. All of them are busy with their own needs. No one is going to make you happy or attain your goals. Everything’s on you.

• Here’s how to not rely on others.

9. Plan.

Know the three steps you have taken. You don’t have to have more. Complete your weekly calendar, and note when and how you are going to do what. It’s important to plan when – what – how. Review how you learned every day and review what you could do to improve.

• Here’s how to plan.

10. Protect yourself from burnout.

When you’re very motivated, it’s easy to burn out. Watch to recognize any signs of fatigue and take time to rest. When you schedule relaxation and fun time in your weekly calendar, your body and mind will rest. Do a variety of tasks, keep switching between creative and logical things, physical and still things, working alone and with a team. Places to switch. Meditate, or just breathe deeply, close your eyes, or focus for five minutes on one thing.

• Here’s how to protect yourself from burnout.

Not because you’re lazy or you don’t have a goal, you lack motivation. Sometimes even the biggest stars, the richest entrepreneurs or the most accomplished athletes get lost. The curiosity about how much better or faster they can get is what makes them motivated. So be curious first and foremost, and that will lead you to your goals and success.

4 Ways to Be More Positive

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Do you think you’ve got to be a tortured soul — at la van Gogh, Kurt Cobain, or Sylvia Plath — to be really creative?

You are not. Indeed, the more cheerful you are, the more imaginative and innovative you are to be. Alice Isen, Ph.D., late pioneer of scientific psychology, found that a positive “affect” (what researchers call a mood expression) facilitates flexible thinking and problem-solving, both of which are vital to the creative process. A happy state of mind, more than sulking, primes your brain for creative thinking.

A happy state of mind primes your brain for creative thinking, more than sulking does.

In one study conducted by Teresa Amabile, Ph.D., a Harvard Business School professor and research director and author of The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work, professionals working on innovative projects filed daily entries about the highs and lows of each day. After five months, Amabile and her team analyzed the nearly 12,000 entries and found that on the days when their moods were more positive, participants were more likely to think creative.

“Positive emotions loosen the thinking patterns of people, leading them to think broader and more extensively, creating unusual connections between ideas,” says Amabile. She says that these new connections can immediately lead to a creative thought, or they can incubate for a while and later result in ingenuity.

1. Take a deep breath.

If you’re upset or stressed out, you need to relax before you can feel really positive. “The relaxation response resets your central nervous system after stress,” says Christine Carter, Ph.D., University of California senior fellow, Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and author of The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Work and Home. Carter recommends taking a few moments to get comfortable and breathe deeply, emphasizing your exhale.

2. Try a happy habit or two.

Find ways to boost your mood once you have reset. Some proven strategies: Identify five things for which you are grateful or ask a favorite colleague to go for a walk. “Even though you’re an introvert, the low-hanging fruit of mental well-being is social interaction,” Carter says. Your creativity will follow once your positivity is on the upswing.

3. Play hooky.

Moments of extreme happiness are big-time creativity boosters, the ones that make you wonder at life. So if you’re stuck in an office or working on a project at home, you’re hoping to be innovative and fresh, you might want to plan a break. Go for a walk. Bathe in the ocean. Visit an exhibit of art. If it is inspiring, it’s not procrastinating, Carter says. “Think of your playtime as providing data for your creativity,” she suggests, to eliminate any I should be working guilt.

4. Don’t reject your dark side.

It’s not natural to be implacably chipper. While a sunnier overall arrangement leads to originality, darker moods are also part of the process. “Denying and avoiding your negative feelings creates the worst thing for creativity, emotional numbness,” says Carter. Studies have shown that after adversity and struggle some people’s creativity is blossoming, but only if they work to make their feelings meaningful. Carter suggests journaling your experiences, or talking to a friend.

22 Ways to Become a Relentless Learner

Learning is not a magical occurrence around you. Learning is about capturing the lessons all around you.

That’s not automatically happening, or else we’d all learn the lessons that could make us extraordinary. Becoming a learner requires a massive and relentless focus. And that means going out of your way to turn your laboratory into life.

You’re not waiting for answers to appear magically. You are actively searching for answers from all around you. You’re not just learning when you feel like it. And you’re not just learning the lessons you want to learn.

Hoping you’ll learn something is different from being willing to learn.

To be a learner means to take what life serves you — fair or not — and turn it into either the best choice or some sort of understanding. Planning your best moments for the future is using the worst moments in life. And sometimes you need to learn a few different ways of learning the same lesson.

Maintaining learning is the key. Even if it means repeatedly learning the same lesson.

We all like to think that the first time we learn the right lessons about it when presented with the right facts. Unfortunately, this is not usually how it works. Being a little “thick” at times is OK (and perfectly normal). Maintaining learning is the key. Even if it means repeatedly learning the same lesson.

Learning is also about curiosity, about being able to find answers to your questions purposefully. As long as you know, it’s about asking questions until you have clarity, so you can be the best you can.

Here are a few questions that work:

  • “Tell me more….”
  • “I’m not sure I understand….”
  • “What makes you say that?”
  • “Can you clarify what you mean?

You need to keep asking until you understand, regardless of the exact words you say. Sure, sometimes with nonstop questions you might feel like a fool. But if what you want is outrageous success, your feelings on the subject are not really that important.

You have to learn. You probably agree with that already. But for you, this is the real question:

Do you learn? Are you stunned to figure it out?

The other option is to be a stuck, silent and frightened loser. And that clearly sounds like the two options ‘ worst.

The way to win is to continue searching for knowledge. When you refuse to stop looking for answers, nobody can stop you.

Be smart. Make Life your lab. Be a guide.

  1. Take notes when you read a book.
  2. Be a guide.
  3. Get a mentor and ask what better things you can do.
  4. Hear contrary points of view.
  5. Put in a crowded room a risky question.
  6. Get help when life becomes tough.
  7. You have failed to write down the last five reasons.
  8. If you don’t know, stop saying “uh-huh” and “yeah.”
  9. Be grateful for lessons that are unexpected.
  10. Keep a list of books that you’d like to read — and start reading.
  11. Continue to ask “Why? “
  12. Share your acquired key knowledge.
  13. Take coffee with three new friends and learn from their talents.
  14. Stop watching so much TV.
  15. Tour a museum and take a couple of photos.
  16. That’s right. Put a list of lessons you have learned together.
  17. Read USA Today or The Journal of Wall Street.
  18. Adapt new vocabulary to daily conversation.
  19. Stop tweeting; begin reading.
  20. Be kind when you know something that nobody else knows.
  21. Participate in music, sports or a hobby.
  22. Dear brothers and sisters. Push your body with exercise and activity to its limits.

Do These 5 Things to (Actually) Stick to Your Goals

You made New Year’s resolutions at the beginning of the year to stop smoking, lose weight, exercise more, think positively? And then remember how easy it was about six days later to slide back into old patterns?

Why are your goals so hard to stick to? Because there’s a big change. It’s frightening.

But with the same resolution you don’t want to hit next January. What a boring thing. How tedious it was. How the year before!

So what are you going to do? For a start, place one foot in front of the other. You got ta lose weight? Go to the fitness center. Must you think positively? Give each day a mirror mantra. You have to stop smoking? Buy a nicotine gum for yourself.

Change begins in a small way. I’m not expecting you to be free of smoke by tomorrow’s end. Nor do I think Thursday you’re going to drop those stubborn 10 pounds. It took me a long time to lose the 50 pounds that I’ve been carrying for years. What I expect you to accomplish your goals every day— whatever they may be.

Here are a few small steps to help you achieve your dose of change every day — to actually meet your goals:

1. Devote your change for at least 15 minutes a day.

Even if it’s just a walk around your neighborhood, do it, read an inspiring article, one less cigarette. Also mix it up. No one wants some tedious workout regime to be stuck. It makes it look so much more miserable, isn’t it? So pick up the paddle ball set, tennis rackets or the Frisbee and go and spend time with your family or friends.

2. Fork over the truth.

Until I decided to be honest about why I was reaching for chips rather than taking healthy risks with myself, I thought it was all about food. In reality, for stuffing food down my face, I got a huge payoff — I got to play it safe. What’s your non-changeable payoff? You will never be able to stick to your plan until you can become real. Modification of behavior teaches us to repeat behaviors that make us feel good. What that means to you is that until the goal gets bigger than the payoff, you will always choose to feel good about feeling uncomfortable.

3. Set realistic goals.

Instead of focusing on losing 20 pounds in 20 days, my goal was just to start eating 5 fruits and vegetables a day. I really believe that good choices lead to better choices (alas, it works the other way too!), and my goal was simply to honor the five-day plan. I didn’t expect a miracle or a transformation of my body overnight. Rather, before adding anything else to my plate, I spent months developing this new behavior pattern; in other words, one behavior at a time.

4. Never eliminate. Replace. 

I want to popcorn when I go to the movies. My husband selects only the heavily buttered and salted kind, so I sneak in my Jolly Time 94 percent Fat Free buttered popcorn (hey, I would buy it if they sold it!). If I just tried to eliminate eating popcorn in the movies while munching with sheer delight next to me, I would probably find my hand covered with grease before the previews had finished. If your goal is to eliminate a specific behavior, if you want permanent change, it must be replaced with a new behavior. If we don’t replace a behavior, we end up creating a large void that leads to obsessive thinking, eventually leading to falling back into old patterns.

5. Find support.

Very few people can get on their own where they’re going. Throughout our change journey, we all need encouragement and support. Perhaps it’s a friend for you to hold you accountable or a group that’s like-minded where they want to go. There is power in numbers, and to our advantage we can use this. Although over the course of a year I had embraced many healthy eating habits, I felt I needed some additional encouragement to continue.

It’s not easy to change. But it’s something you can achieve as long as you don’t seek the quick fix, but are willing to make daily choices that will bring you lasting results. You’re going to have setbacks a few days, but that doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel. It’s just a chance to commit yourself to your goal. Have fun with that!