How to Handle a Dumb Boss

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One time in your corporate career, there is always a moment when you ask yourself, “I wonder how in the world the company ever promoted my stupid boos into this job.” Due to a combination of not well thought of business decision and too much trust in people’s potemtial, an organization often end up with a stupid boss in charge.

Handling a stupid boss requires a lot of good people skill sets. Here are some helpful tips and ways in dealing with a stupid boss.

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I. Use intelligence to combat unintelligence

Once your stupid boss fell that you are smarter than them, they will feel little bit threatened and will try to sabotage you. That is why it is important to prove to them that you are a lot smarter and that you are out of their league. This way, they will feel frightened to mess with you.

Don’t have second thoughts in using any opportunity to prove that you are way smarter than anyone, especially your boss. Use intricate reasoning and big words when talking to them, and act like it’s natural for you.

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II. Explain yourself using complex logic

The big issue wuth a stupid boss is they often take dumb decisions and asks you to implement them. When this happens, say you’ll do it according to what they want and then later do it according to your will.

And when your boss asks you why you disobeyed them, explain yourself using logic and big words that are above them. Say for example: “I was backtracking my steps on the appending of account numbers on the ICM stream and realized a divergent approach with this process would emphasize the project’s collateral benefits for both our company and our partner site in terms of PCI and other security risks.” Then watch them stare at you blankly. They don’t want to look stupid even if they don’t have any idea on what you just said, they will not acknowledge this. Vanity is common to stupid people. Most of the time, they will just say, “Ok, next time, do things like I tell you to”. Then just repeat the same process next time.

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III. Understand their feelings

Because a stupid boss can not follow complicated logic, often it is best to push their emotional buttons to impact their choices. Do not bother to attempt to convince them of arguments when you suggest to carry out a certain project.

Tell them something like this, instead: “I went to speak about this project to Tim (the boss of your boss) and he believes that it’s a great idea.” it’s essential to please your boss to Tim, that’s all you have to persuade them to.

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IV. Use plain and simple logic, and perfect choice of words.

If you really feel the need to persuade a dumb boss to use logic, facts and arguments, then strip them off before using them. It reflects the malevolence and abilities of good people. Imagine speaking to a caveman who does not know the great phrases and sophisticated logic: “This… line; this… circle.”

Simplicity is when you try to convince a dumb boss. Try anything and you’re going to lose them. Then you will only hear about them: “I don’t find your arguments convincing enough” (translation: “I don’t have no indication of what you are talking about”).

Last but not least, keep in mind that no matter how good your people’s ability to cope with a dumb boss is, it’s always better to cope with a smart one instead. Thus, if it is often time to trick your boss with your higher brain power, perhaps it is time to find another job.😅 😅 😅

4 Ways of Dealing with Entitled People

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“A sense of entitlement is a cancerous thought process that is void of gratitude and can be deadly in our relationships.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli.

Some people wear entitlement like they own the world — they’re harsh, demanding and resentful, especially when they don’t get things they way they wanted it to be. But sometimes, you would not notice it, it’s subtle. That you will end up feeling, you are being manipulated.

Being friends, colleagues and associates with entitled individuals is a challenge because a relationship is supposedly equal, but it’s not for them. They will always feel superior and above you and will always prioritizes his agenda over others. How can the folly be stopped? Try the following 4 tips:

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Tip number 1: Use wish fulfillment to set clear limits

An entitled individual will hold all sorts of expectations — he expect you to be readily available to babysit anytime he will ask, a grown child expect to inherit enough that he need not to save a dime, or a customer expect to not line up in a fastfood chain or bank because of his profession.

One great way of making it clear that you can’t or won’t fulfill the expectation, without blaming or criticism is through wish fulfillment. It sounds like this:  “I wish I could babysit and help you out, but I have an appointment today. Next time give me a few days notice and I’ll see if I can help.” Or, “I wish I could work you in the schedule today, but everyone is booked solid. What about tomorrow?”

In short, say you want to fulfill his request and then politely make it clear that you can’t. Sometimes just recognition that you have heard and ostensibly agreed with the entitled person’s demand is sufficient to alleviate their fragile ego.

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Tip number 2: Treat everyone equally

Don’t bend any rules and or make any exemptions for an entitled individual if you can’t do the same for everyone. Making exemptions will just feed into the mind of an entitled person that he is special and superior, above everyone else. Plus it has an effect to the rest of the group, making them feel resentful. Everyone will feel secure and safe if you will run a tight and egalitarian ship.

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Tip number 3: Feel a bit sorry for them

Yes, individuals who are entitled can boil your blood. But there’s a raging feeling of insufficiency underneath everything. However they may look outside, it is always helpful to think their lives and relationships are pretty miserable.

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Tip number 4: Remember you can only do so much

No mater what and how, you can never change an entitled individual, but only themselves. You can try to help and protect, but always steer clear by setting limits, being egalitarian and feeling compassion.

To wrap this all up, there’s a popular saying that goes  “You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.”

Have you ever had encounter these kinds of senarios? Share us your thoughts and experience. Comment down below.

How to Endure Negativity from Anyone

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Negative behavior can be quite a downer. Once upon a time, I had a colleague with daily adverse energy. In our discussions she would never cease to complain about everything she could think about–job, family, friends, health. She also was highly cynical of others, often doubting and severely judging their intentions. To say the least, to talk to her was not an enjoyable experience.

I felt totally drained the first time we had a conference. Even if we were speaking for only 30 minutes, after our discussion I hardly had any power remaining. It felt like someone literally sucked my life away and it took me a few hours to wear off the impacts. The next few times we talked about the same thing. I soon found out that I had to develop an action plan to tackle this type of adverse energy. After all, in my life she wasn’t going to be the only adverse guy I met.

I created a number of important strategies to deal efficiently with adverse individuals. They worked wonderful things in my own lives and Marc and myself are using them to help hundreds of weekly coaching and course students. I hope that in them, too, you will discover value …

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1. Set boundaries and apply them.

It is difficult to cope with individuals who are adverse and fail to concentrate on alternatives. You want individuals to join your pampered group 24/7 so you can feel more comfortable. And it may be because you do not wish to be regarded as insane or rude that you feel forced to listen to their complaints, but it is a fine line between listening and getting drawn into the adverse emotional drama.

By setting boundaries and distancing yourself where necessary, you can prevent this tragedy. Please think this: would you like to sit next to them all day inhaling the second-hand smoke, if a adverse individual were cigarettes smokers? No, you wouldn’t–you wouldn’t get away. So go ahead and take a breath when you have to.

Another excellent way to establish limitations is to ask a adverse individual how they are trying to resolve the issue that they complain of when distancing themselves in the short run. They will often either rest or redirect the discussion, at least momentarily, in a more harmonious direction.

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2. Do not just respond – be mindful of the situation

A response is a warm, thoughtless emotional explosion in the minute that is generally driven by your ego (as human beings, when we are unconnected to our logical mind), we are most likely to respond. It could only take a split second before your intuition starts, offering you some outlook, or it could take over to the extent you act on it. If after coping with a person you feel upset or flush

In short, you don’t react by throwing insults at anyone with a adverse attitude. Maintain your dignity and don’t fall to their levels. True power is courageous enough for your head to wander away from the senselessness.

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3. Choose a positive topic

The adverse approaches of some people are driven by certain apparently harmless subjects. For instance, when we speak about his work, one of my colleagues becomes a highly toxic self-victimizer. Regardless of what I say, she is going to complain of everything about her work and when I attempt to intercept favorable remarks, she rolls with more negativity right over them. This obviously becomes quite a damping discussion.

If the individual you speak to is stuck in a subject which brings you down, you may be aware of their adverse feelings too profoundly rooted to tackle in an unanimous discussion. If you are in a comparable discussion. Your best bet is to bring a fresh subject to the mood. Simple things like funny memories, friendships, private stories of achievement and other sorts of things

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4. Provide positive resolutions and avoid discussing negative issues.

Where and how your attention is focused determines your mental state. You generate and prolong negatives and stress when you zero in on the challenges you are facing. You generate a feeling of self-efficency that produces beneficial feelings and decreases stress by shifting your focus on actions that can enhance your conditions.

The same precise rule applies to adverse individuals–it only intensificates your pain to determine how stressful and hard they are by empowering them. Stop thinking about how troubled this individual is, and instead concentrate on how you will deal positively with their behaviour. This makes your driver’s seat more efficient and more efficient.

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5. Keep an emotional separation from the views of others.

To keep stress at distance, maintaining a degree of emotional separation is essential. It is essential for your emotional health and happiness that negative people (or anyone else in this regard) do not put the weight of their insufficiency on your back. It all depends on your appreciation and therefore your faith in yourself.

People who efficiently handle their life are usually people who operate inside–i.e. people who understand that achievement and goodness come from inside (interior control locus). Negative people usually work externally, i.e. blame for anything that happens or doesn’t (internal control locus).

If the views of others are based on your sense of satisfaction and self-worth, you are no longer in control of your happiness. Know that. Know that. When individuals are emotionally powerful, they do not take away the inappropriate views or spiteful comments of anyone. They feel great about something they have accomplished.

Truth be told, you’re never as good as everyone says when you win, and you’re never as terrible as they tell you when you lose.  The important thing is what you’ve learned, and what you’re doing with it.

We cannot control everyone’s emotions but we can change the situation on how we respond. Have you also experienced this kind of situations? Leave a comment below and share us your experience.

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Struggled? 5 Simple ways of avoiding burnout

Most modern success stories read like Greek myth adaptations. Our role models are remarkable demigods such as Oprah, Tony Robbins and Beyoncé— we admire them and study them with awe, aim high and take our own leaps as they lead the way. The hero is the entrepreneur or career rock star, on a journey built from accomplishing half a dozen incredible feats and still fitting before dinner in Pilates. Such achievements are our new currency and our symbols of status.

While we strive to be our happiest and healthiest, financial success is also achieved through long hours and hard work. As we reach our “best life,” we aim to balance work – life and feel bad when we don’t feel we’ve achieved it.

Roughly everyone is spread thin today, which can develop into stress – related burnout and eventually disease if left unchecked. But this way it doesn’t have to be. I found a remarkably easy way to avoid falling into the burnout trap:

1. Don’t be busy with business mistakes.

Look at your workload and use this simple question for each item on your task list: “Will the effects of this task have a positive, lasting impact on my life and business life?” If the answer is no, it probably won’t be worth it.

2. There’s no self – made thing — so get good when you ask for help.

Use this simple formula to send requests to others: identify who can help you, ask them if you can send them a request, make the specific request as long as it takes, and thank them profusely for helping you. Ask them who they think will if they don’t help. Your success is directly commensurate with your ability to seek help.

3. Keep Sunday sacred.

There’s a reason why world religions have a sacred rest day — it’s necessary to maintain emotional well-being and health. The Buddhists have a simple practice called “Circle Day” when, in the middle of the week, they take a full day off and use it to rest, meditate, create art, and care for themselves. And it works; I return to my work with new insight, boosted creativity and a renewed sense of curiosity when I take time to do nothing.

4. Pay attention to your adrenals.

Stress taps our adrenal glands and causes exhaustion in our bodies, and by drinking more caffeine we often cover it up. My energy increased exponentially when I started taking Standard Process Drenamin supplements. You can also take supplements from Holy Basil or drink Holy Basil tea to help the body stop producing cortisol— the stress hormone that ages and exhausts us. I do both now, and my focus, clarity, and ability to achieve great goals has grown beyond anything I ever thought possible.

5. Meditate (so you don’t have to medicate).

Many of the most successful people in the world are doing it. Start by setting your five – minute digital timer. Then sit comfortably and deeply inhale for a five count through your nose and exhale for another five counts. Repeat this again and again until beeping the timer. You can increase as much as you can.

Spreading ourselves thin is a tendency most of us have in our quest to succeed, but it’s not a lifestyle we can’t counterbalance with some simple, healthy habits. So here’s to your balance and your success on your own hero’s journey—and may it be burnout free!

8 Ways to Effectively Prioritize the Things on Your To-Do List

Priorities are important things — I know, you know that. But many of us are guilty of the habit of reacting on — and off — our to – do list to the urgent things, rather than responding to the important ones.

Important activities should be of high priority as they are the things that contribute most to our goals. They have more long-term impact and should help us to achieve our goals as much as possible. Usually, urgent activities are more of a short-term nature and may or may not relate to our overall goals and usually do not make significant contributions. Instead, they make endless demands on our time by pressing us every day.

Between the urgent and the important there is a constant tension. And because today’s important things rarely need to be done — and the urgent thing almost always needs to be done — there is a critical need to learn how to set proper priorities so that our visions, goals, and desires can be better met.

Do not prioritize on the basis of who gave you the work ; fit it for the big picture on the basis of its importance and urgency. Most people don’t take the time to prioritize this time. They are usually reactive, so try to be proactive in a concerted effort.

How much time can you gain by changing your habits — by prioritizing them more effectively? Here are eight tips you can apply to daily tasks:

1. Create lists

Focusing and multitasking help with priority notes and lists.

2. Set your daily planning priorities.

To make room for productive items, eliminate or minimize unproductive to – do items from your daily list.

3. Learn when your high-energy time is.

When you have the most energy gains minutes through more effective work, schedule your priority work.

4. Sort emails early in the day.

And quickly appropriate categorization of each piece — now, future, trash. Because each piece is addressed only once, you’re gaining time all day long.

5. Simplified email request.

Request that people send you priority emails with clear bullet points, not long narratives, to spell out the actions you need. Set the example by sending only effective, bullet – pointed emails.

6. Write down your goals before returning phone calls.

To gain time by communicating more quickly and effectively.

7. Make your reading a priority.

By learning newsletters, articles and books from the skim industry. Then just read what gives you real value.

8. Create and follow a written agenda for each meeting.

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10 Tips to Achieve Anything You Want in Life

1. Focus on commitment, not motivation.

How committed to your goal are you? How important is it for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, there will be motivation.

• Here’s how to focus on commitment.

2. Seek knowledge, not results.

Focusing on the excitement of discovery, improvement, exploration, and experimentation will always fuel your motivation. If you focus solely on results, your motivation will be like the weather, the minute you hit a storm it will die. Focusing on the journey is the key, not the destination. Continue to think about what you are learning along the way and what you can improve.

• Here’s how to seek knowledge.

3. Make the journey fun.

It’s a great game! The minute you make it serious, there’s a big chance it’s going to start carrying a heavy emotional weight and you’re going to lose perspective and get stuck again.

• Here’s how to get rid of stagnating thoughts.

4. Get rid of stagnating thoughts.

Thoughts influence feelings and feelings to determine how you view your work. You have a lot of thoughts in your head, and you always have a choice of which ones to focus on: those that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or those that will move you forward (excitement, experimenting, trying new things, stepping out of your comfort zone).

• Here’s how to get rid of stagnating thoughts.

5. Use your imagination.

After getting rid of negative thoughts, the next step is to use your imagination. You are full of positive energy when things go well, and you need to be even more energetic when you are experiencing difficulties. Rename your situation. If you keep repeating I hate my work, what feelings will those words evoke? It’s an imagination matter! At the most boring job, you can always find something to learn from even the worst boss in the world. I have a great exercise for you: think and say only positive things for three days. See what’s going on.

• Here’s how to use your imagination.

6. Stop being nice to yourself.

Motivation means action and results are achieved through action. Your actions sometimes fail to deliver the results you want. So you’d rather be nice to yourself and not be in a difficult situation. You are waiting for the perfect timing, a chance, while you are driving into stagnation and sometimes even depression. Get out there, challenge yourself, even if you’re afraid, do something you want to do.

• Here’s how to stop being nice to yourself.

7. Get rid of distractions.

There will always be meaningless things and distractions in your way, especially those simple, usual things you prefer to do instead of focusing on new challenging and meaningful projects. Learn to focus on the most important thing. Write a list of time-wasters and be responsible for not doing them.

• Here’s how to get rid of distractions.

8. Don’t rely on others.

You should never expect others, not even your partner, friend or boss, to do it for you. All of them are busy with their own needs. No one is going to make you happy or attain your goals. Everything’s on you.

• Here’s how to not rely on others.

9. Plan.

Know the three steps you have taken. You don’t have to have more. Complete your weekly calendar, and note when and how you are going to do what. It’s important to plan when – what – how. Review how you learned every day and review what you could do to improve.

• Here’s how to plan.

10. Protect yourself from burnout.

When you’re very motivated, it’s easy to burn out. Watch to recognize any signs of fatigue and take time to rest. When you schedule relaxation and fun time in your weekly calendar, your body and mind will rest. Do a variety of tasks, keep switching between creative and logical things, physical and still things, working alone and with a team. Places to switch. Meditate, or just breathe deeply, close your eyes, or focus for five minutes on one thing.

• Here’s how to protect yourself from burnout.

Not because you’re lazy or you don’t have a goal, you lack motivation. Sometimes even the biggest stars, the richest entrepreneurs or the most accomplished athletes get lost. The curiosity about how much better or faster they can get is what makes them motivated. So be curious first and foremost, and that will lead you to your goals and success.

4 Ways to Be More Positive

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Do you think you’ve got to be a tortured soul — at la van Gogh, Kurt Cobain, or Sylvia Plath — to be really creative?

You are not. Indeed, the more cheerful you are, the more imaginative and innovative you are to be. Alice Isen, Ph.D., late pioneer of scientific psychology, found that a positive “affect” (what researchers call a mood expression) facilitates flexible thinking and problem-solving, both of which are vital to the creative process. A happy state of mind, more than sulking, primes your brain for creative thinking.

A happy state of mind primes your brain for creative thinking, more than sulking does.

In one study conducted by Teresa Amabile, Ph.D., a Harvard Business School professor and research director and author of The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work, professionals working on innovative projects filed daily entries about the highs and lows of each day. After five months, Amabile and her team analyzed the nearly 12,000 entries and found that on the days when their moods were more positive, participants were more likely to think creative.

“Positive emotions loosen the thinking patterns of people, leading them to think broader and more extensively, creating unusual connections between ideas,” says Amabile. She says that these new connections can immediately lead to a creative thought, or they can incubate for a while and later result in ingenuity.

1. Take a deep breath.

If you’re upset or stressed out, you need to relax before you can feel really positive. “The relaxation response resets your central nervous system after stress,” says Christine Carter, Ph.D., University of California senior fellow, Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and author of The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Work and Home. Carter recommends taking a few moments to get comfortable and breathe deeply, emphasizing your exhale.

2. Try a happy habit or two.

Find ways to boost your mood once you have reset. Some proven strategies: Identify five things for which you are grateful or ask a favorite colleague to go for a walk. “Even though you’re an introvert, the low-hanging fruit of mental well-being is social interaction,” Carter says. Your creativity will follow once your positivity is on the upswing.

3. Play hooky.

Moments of extreme happiness are big-time creativity boosters, the ones that make you wonder at life. So if you’re stuck in an office or working on a project at home, you’re hoping to be innovative and fresh, you might want to plan a break. Go for a walk. Bathe in the ocean. Visit an exhibit of art. If it is inspiring, it’s not procrastinating, Carter says. “Think of your playtime as providing data for your creativity,” she suggests, to eliminate any I should be working guilt.

4. Don’t reject your dark side.

It’s not natural to be implacably chipper. While a sunnier overall arrangement leads to originality, darker moods are also part of the process. “Denying and avoiding your negative feelings creates the worst thing for creativity, emotional numbness,” says Carter. Studies have shown that after adversity and struggle some people’s creativity is blossoming, but only if they work to make their feelings meaningful. Carter suggests journaling your experiences, or talking to a friend.

22 Ways to Become a Relentless Learner

Learning is not a magical occurrence around you. Learning is about capturing the lessons all around you.

That’s not automatically happening, or else we’d all learn the lessons that could make us extraordinary. Becoming a learner requires a massive and relentless focus. And that means going out of your way to turn your laboratory into life.

You’re not waiting for answers to appear magically. You are actively searching for answers from all around you. You’re not just learning when you feel like it. And you’re not just learning the lessons you want to learn.

Hoping you’ll learn something is different from being willing to learn.

To be a learner means to take what life serves you — fair or not — and turn it into either the best choice or some sort of understanding. Planning your best moments for the future is using the worst moments in life. And sometimes you need to learn a few different ways of learning the same lesson.

Maintaining learning is the key. Even if it means repeatedly learning the same lesson.

We all like to think that the first time we learn the right lessons about it when presented with the right facts. Unfortunately, this is not usually how it works. Being a little “thick” at times is OK (and perfectly normal). Maintaining learning is the key. Even if it means repeatedly learning the same lesson.

Learning is also about curiosity, about being able to find answers to your questions purposefully. As long as you know, it’s about asking questions until you have clarity, so you can be the best you can.

Here are a few questions that work:

  • “Tell me more….”
  • “I’m not sure I understand….”
  • “What makes you say that?”
  • “Can you clarify what you mean?

You need to keep asking until you understand, regardless of the exact words you say. Sure, sometimes with nonstop questions you might feel like a fool. But if what you want is outrageous success, your feelings on the subject are not really that important.

You have to learn. You probably agree with that already. But for you, this is the real question:

Do you learn? Are you stunned to figure it out?

The other option is to be a stuck, silent and frightened loser. And that clearly sounds like the two options ‘ worst.

The way to win is to continue searching for knowledge. When you refuse to stop looking for answers, nobody can stop you.

Be smart. Make Life your lab. Be a guide.

  1. Take notes when you read a book.
  2. Be a guide.
  3. Get a mentor and ask what better things you can do.
  4. Hear contrary points of view.
  5. Put in a crowded room a risky question.
  6. Get help when life becomes tough.
  7. You have failed to write down the last five reasons.
  8. If you don’t know, stop saying “uh-huh” and “yeah.”
  9. Be grateful for lessons that are unexpected.
  10. Keep a list of books that you’d like to read — and start reading.
  11. Continue to ask “Why? “
  12. Share your acquired key knowledge.
  13. Take coffee with three new friends and learn from their talents.
  14. Stop watching so much TV.
  15. Tour a museum and take a couple of photos.
  16. That’s right. Put a list of lessons you have learned together.
  17. Read USA Today or The Journal of Wall Street.
  18. Adapt new vocabulary to daily conversation.
  19. Stop tweeting; begin reading.
  20. Be kind when you know something that nobody else knows.
  21. Participate in music, sports or a hobby.
  22. Dear brothers and sisters. Push your body with exercise and activity to its limits.

Do These 5 Things to (Actually) Stick to Your Goals

You made New Year’s resolutions at the beginning of the year to stop smoking, lose weight, exercise more, think positively? And then remember how easy it was about six days later to slide back into old patterns?

Why are your goals so hard to stick to? Because there’s a big change. It’s frightening.

But with the same resolution you don’t want to hit next January. What a boring thing. How tedious it was. How the year before!

So what are you going to do? For a start, place one foot in front of the other. You got ta lose weight? Go to the fitness center. Must you think positively? Give each day a mirror mantra. You have to stop smoking? Buy a nicotine gum for yourself.

Change begins in a small way. I’m not expecting you to be free of smoke by tomorrow’s end. Nor do I think Thursday you’re going to drop those stubborn 10 pounds. It took me a long time to lose the 50 pounds that I’ve been carrying for years. What I expect you to accomplish your goals every day— whatever they may be.

Here are a few small steps to help you achieve your dose of change every day — to actually meet your goals:

1. Devote your change for at least 15 minutes a day.

Even if it’s just a walk around your neighborhood, do it, read an inspiring article, one less cigarette. Also mix it up. No one wants some tedious workout regime to be stuck. It makes it look so much more miserable, isn’t it? So pick up the paddle ball set, tennis rackets or the Frisbee and go and spend time with your family or friends.

2. Fork over the truth.

Until I decided to be honest about why I was reaching for chips rather than taking healthy risks with myself, I thought it was all about food. In reality, for stuffing food down my face, I got a huge payoff — I got to play it safe. What’s your non-changeable payoff? You will never be able to stick to your plan until you can become real. Modification of behavior teaches us to repeat behaviors that make us feel good. What that means to you is that until the goal gets bigger than the payoff, you will always choose to feel good about feeling uncomfortable.

3. Set realistic goals.

Instead of focusing on losing 20 pounds in 20 days, my goal was just to start eating 5 fruits and vegetables a day. I really believe that good choices lead to better choices (alas, it works the other way too!), and my goal was simply to honor the five-day plan. I didn’t expect a miracle or a transformation of my body overnight. Rather, before adding anything else to my plate, I spent months developing this new behavior pattern; in other words, one behavior at a time.

4. Never eliminate. Replace. 

I want to popcorn when I go to the movies. My husband selects only the heavily buttered and salted kind, so I sneak in my Jolly Time 94 percent Fat Free buttered popcorn (hey, I would buy it if they sold it!). If I just tried to eliminate eating popcorn in the movies while munching with sheer delight next to me, I would probably find my hand covered with grease before the previews had finished. If your goal is to eliminate a specific behavior, if you want permanent change, it must be replaced with a new behavior. If we don’t replace a behavior, we end up creating a large void that leads to obsessive thinking, eventually leading to falling back into old patterns.

5. Find support.

Very few people can get on their own where they’re going. Throughout our change journey, we all need encouragement and support. Perhaps it’s a friend for you to hold you accountable or a group that’s like-minded where they want to go. There is power in numbers, and to our advantage we can use this. Although over the course of a year I had embraced many healthy eating habits, I felt I needed some additional encouragement to continue.

It’s not easy to change. But it’s something you can achieve as long as you don’t seek the quick fix, but are willing to make daily choices that will bring you lasting results. You’re going to have setbacks a few days, but that doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel. It’s just a chance to commit yourself to your goal. Have fun with that!

10 Convenient ways of improving yourself

Are you constantly trying to improve and improve yourself? If you do, we’ve got something in common.

Personal growth I’m very passionate about. It was only four years ago that I discovered my passion to grow and help others grow. I was 22 at that time and in my last university year. I realized that there was nothing more meaningful than pursuing a life of development and improvement as I thought about the meaning of life. We get the most out of life by improving ourselves.

The more I grow, the more I realize I don’t know so much out there that I must learn.

Whenever we feel good we can be better still.

I constantly seek ways of improving myself as a passionate advocate for growth. I have compiled 42 of my best tips that could be useful on your journey of personal growth. Some of these are easy steps you can take straight away. Some are major steps that are made to act consciously. They’re here: Choose a new hobby.

1.Choose a new hobby.

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In addition to your usual favorite hobbies, are you able to pick up something new? You can learn any new sport?

Fencing, golf, climbing, football, canoeing or ice skating, among other things.

You can also make your new hobby a leisure hobby. For example pottery, Italian cuisine, dance, wine appreciation, web design, etc.

You can teach something new, physically, mentally or emotionally in different respects. Take a new direction.

2. Take a new direction.

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Are you able to join any new course? Courses are an excellent way to gain new skills and knowledge.

There is no need for long – term training – seminars or workshops are also intended.

I was in a few workshops and they helped me get new insights that I hadn’t thought about before.

3. Make a room that is inspiring.

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The mood and the tone set for you in your environment. You’ll be inspired every day if you live in an inspiring environment.

I did n’t like my room in the past, because I thought it was chaotic and stupid. I decided that this was the end a few years ago. I started a project “Mega Room Revamp” and redeveloped my room.

The final outcome? A room in which I am totally happy and inspire me every day to be at my height.

4. Take your fears over.

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We’re all afraid. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speech, fear of risk… all of our fears keep us uniform and prevent our growth.

Recognize that the areas you can grow in reflect your fear. I always consider fears to be the growth compass.

If I’m afraid of something, it is something I still have to deal with, and addressing it helps me to develop.

5. Have a practice routine on a weekly basis.

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Better you start to be physically better. I myself make the point of jogging at least three times a week, each time at least 30 minutes.

You may want to blend it with jogging, fitness lessons and variety swimming.

6.Write your future person a letter.

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What do you think 5 years later? Are you going to be identical? Other? Other? What type of person are you going to be?

Write a letter for your future–it will be a good start for 1 year from now–and seal it.

Make a date of 1 year from now on in your calendar. Then begin to work to the person you want the letter to open.

7. Put a challenge to somebody.

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Concurrence is one of the best ways to increase. Set yourself a challenge (weight loss, practice, financial challenges, etc.) and rival a interested friend to see who reaches the goal first.

During the process, you will both gain more than you would if you set goals on your own.

8.Request feedback.

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We will always have blind spots as much as we try to improve. Requesting feedback gives us a further prospect.

Certain people will be friends, relatives, colleagues, boss and even families because they have no preset prejudice and can objectively provide their feedback.

9.Recognize your shortcomings.

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It’s all flaws. The main thing is to understand, recognize and address them. What are your flaws, do you think?

What are the shortcomings on which you now can work? How would you like to deal with them?

10. Engage in your personal development.

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I can write list articles 10 ways, 25 ways, 42 ways, or even 1,000 ways to get better, but it doesn’t matter what I write if you don’t want to commit to your personal growth.

It’s not going to get through anything. For our personal growth, we are responsible— nobody else. Your dad, me or Lifehack, not your mother or friend.

Decide on your personal growth and embrace a lifetime journey of growth and change. Start your growth by selecting and working on some of the steps above.

The results might not be immediate, but I promise you that you will see positive changes in yourself and in your lives as long as you do this.

In 2019, focus on self – care to do better with your money

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Modern life is full of stressors and money is the most popular. But financial discipline is actually harder due to stress. This could lead to a cycle in which stress increases the likelihood of poor money choices and those mistakes increase stress.

This emphasizes the importance of financial health self – care. The use of self – care ideas can reduce stress and enhance well – being.

These are some ideas of self – care which will improve your mental, emotional, physical and financial health.


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Ideas for improving financial discipline

1. Have a self – care budget
Money is a resource and can occasionally be used to trade for other resources, such as time or energy, which you lack. Make some room for self – care in your budget. Use this fund to nurture and care for yourself as a guilt – free way.

You can treat yourself to even a small amount of cheap fun. If you can afford it, you may want to invest more in the development of skills with cooking classes. Or you can take a pet poop scooper to offload your chore.

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2. Financial decisions are carefully taken
People who are typically stressed “lack of clarity about what they are doing for themselves financially versus a decision to relieve stress,” Chastain says. It’s like the advice that food shops shouldn’t have hunger.

Before you sit back to work on finances, take a look at yourself. Check that you are physically fed, hydrated, and rested well.Ensure that you feel good emotions — trustful, empowered and encouraged. Take stock, like mental control and brain power, of your mental resources. If anything is wrong, take a break before tackling your money problems and address your needs.

3. Preserve your physical health
Enough sleep, good nutrition, and regular exercise are the cornerstones of a care system. As titan investor Warren Buffett has said, ” When you care for your body, you lower stress and sharpen your mind — your most valuable financial tool. “

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4. Ground in today’s world
“People under stress usually avoid and find ways to numb,” says Chastain. Try to take a moment to get grounded, if you tend to swing from manic money panic  or dead – in desperation.

Taylor suggests that deep breathing is a simple but effective tool for oxygen increases and remains present. Being aware and present can help people to decide on a better finance, because thinking about the future is a constant source of anxiety,” he added.

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5. Set and maintain limits
An important principle of self-care is creating and enforcing healthy social boundaries. These boundaries help you keep other people’s choices, opinions or lifestyles from influencing your financial choices. And they make sure that your well – being is not sacrificed to others, including financial health.

Setting these financial boundaries can be hard but important. You might decline to lend money to a family member.  Perhaps, if you’re a bit unilateral, you’d renegotiate how you split costs with your significant other. Or it could be smaller and easier, like a big social media spend you always compare with.

6. Get a Finance Mentor
When you work on your finances, it can be invaluable to have a point person talk through things and brainstorm money solutions. Choose someone you trust and who has a sound financial judgment and ask if they are ready to be your money management sounding board. It can make financial decisions less daunting, reduce your mental burden, and provide you with much – needed help.

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7. Investing in professional assistance
Think of investing in professional aid in addition to getting support from a friend or family member. If your finances are a mess, discussions with a financial planner can help you unload a little money and find clever solutions that you might not know about otherwise.

Mental health problems can play a major role in some people’s well – being and finances. There really is really no substitute for professional help if you struggle with mood or mental disorders from depression to ADHD.

Bahar says you can help build “a short- and long – term strategy step – by – step,” build and implement the self – care plan with a therapist. It also gives you safe place to work through “the feelings including anger, fear, and shame.” And you can get evaluated for any medications or other therapies.

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You can improve your well – being and lower stress by implementing self – care ideas. And it’s likely to pay off soon enough. “People who are calm and in charge of their life ultimately make smarter choices with their money,” As per Chastain.

If Nothing Changes, Nothing Will Change

10 Life Changes To Crush The New Year Like A Boss

If you’ve taken a couple of weeks off the exercise and then completed an exhausting workout, you may know what I’m going to say.

The first workout back from a long break can be tough, but the dolor that follows a few days later is usually really brutal. For example, if you do a squat workout after a couple of weeks off, it can hurt to sit on a chair or climb the stairs later in the week.

One of the fastest ways to solve this pain is very counterintuitive: Squat again.

That makes little sense on the surface. But there’s something deeper going on here, as you might expect. The Repeated Bout Effect is called and applies to much more than just exercise.

The effect of repeated bouts in your life

The repeated bout effect tells us that the more we do, the less it affects us. There are many ways to think throughout life about this effect.

  1. On your first day of business, making ten sales calls can lead to a big jump in overall revenue. However, making ten sales calls in a row for the 300th day is unlikely to have a significant impact on total revenue.
  2. You’ll lose weight when you start eating smaller portions. However, your smaller portion slowly becomes your normal portion and weight loss stalls after the first ten or fifteen pounds fall off.
  3. If you haven’t done a lot of strength training, you’ll be stronger with 30 pushups. However, after a couple of months, an extra 30 pushups doesn’t really build new muscle.

These examples make sense when you see them nicely lined up in an article, but we often curse ourselves for lack of progress in the real world.

Let’s say you want to lose weight and you didn’t work out before. You start running twice a week and you’ve lost 10 pounds very soon. The repeated bout effect starts at some point, your body adapts and weight loss slows down. Suddenly, you still run twice a week, but the scale doesn’t move anymore.

It can be very easy to interpret these decreasing results as some sort of failure.

  • “Oh, every week I work out and nothing happens.”

Except that it worked. Your initial exercise actually worked just as it was supposed to because it yielded a new result and your body adapted and improved. Your body now has a new starting point and if you want to achieve a higher level of success, you need to add something new to the mix.


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The repeated effect of the bout can teach us three improvements lessons.

  • First, a small amount of work is a great way to reduce the pain of hard sessions. Imagine Monday’s easy1-minute pushup workout and Friday’s hard 10-minute pushup. The repeated bout effect says your soreness will be reduced after Friday’s workout just because you did an easy session earlier in the week. It can make a difference to work easily.
  • Secondly, the amount of work you need to do to achieve your maximum output level is higher than what you do now. If you don’t perform 100% of your potential already, you have room to grow. And the repeated bout effect tells us you’ve probably adapted to all of your life’s normal stimuli. If you want to achieve a new level of success, a new level of work must be put in place. This doesn’t mean you should start doing as much work as possible, but it means you can’t expect a small change to work forever when you start small. You have to graduate continuously to the next level.
  • Third, for long – term success, deliberate practice is critical. It is a strange form of laziness to do the same type of work again and again. You ca n’t go to the gym, run three miles a week and expect to enjoy constantly improving results. You’ve seen all the results that three – mile runs can deliver after a couple of months of repetitive workouts and your body has adapted to this stimulus. For this reason, it is important for long – term improvement to deliberately practice new skills that you can master in one to three practice sessions. Making deliberate practice a habit can help you to avoid practicing things that are no longer beneficial.

The key is that things will work for a while and then we’ll get used to them.



“What got you here won’t get you there.”


Marshall Goldsmith

How can Healthy Habits Achieve Your Goals

We all faced the deception and guilt that comes after several weeks from setting and abandoning a goal. Sustainability for a long – term objective is difficult to achieve but normally only in a few months or even years can the best aims be achieved.

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This is the solution: instead, focus on creating a new habit that leads to your objective.

Would you like to run a marathon? Make it a habit to go every day first. Would you like to get out of the debt and save? Creates the habit of making brown bags to work, or watching DVDs rather than going to movies, or any change will save you money.

In concentrating not on what you need to achieve over the next year, but on what you do every day, you concentrate on something that you can achieve. This little change every day will bring enormous changes over time… and you will be surprised at the extent to which you have come in no time. Over time, small sand grains can add up to the mountain.

I have used the philosophy of change of custom to run a marathon, change my diet, lose weight, write a novel, stop smoking, be organized and productive, double my revenue, cut my debt, save myself and begin this year’s practice for the Olympic Triathlon. It works when you concentrate on changing habits.

Now it’s not easy to change your habits — I won’t lie to you — but it’s feasible, above all if you start small. With your first habit change don’t try to change the world … take baby steps. At the end of the year, I was able to run more than 20 miles. I just tried to ride a mile.

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How are your habits changed? Concentrate on one habit at a time and take these steps:

  1. Changes are positive. If you try to change your negative habits (quit smoking), replace it with a positive habits (for example, running to relieve stress).
  2. Take a challenge of 30 days. Tell yourself that you will be making this custom for 30 straight days, without fail, every day at the same time. Once that 30-day mark has passed, your habit will be easier. Do not beat yourself if you fail. If you fail. Start a new challenge for 30 days. Practice until successful. Until success.
  3. Commit yourself totally. Don’t simply say that you could or ought to do that to yourself. Tell the world this is going to be DEFINITY. Sit in this one hundred percent. Tell everyone you know. Tell everyone you know. Just email them. Email them. Put it on your blog! Put it on your blog. Post it to your place of business and home. This positive pressure from the public will motivate you.
  4. Set up rewards. It is best to recompense yourself often during the first week and then recompense yourself for the first month every week. Make sure that these are good rewards, which will help to keep you on track.
  5. Take your time to beat. It is best to start by monitoring your pressures so that you are more aware of them. Track them for a few days, and every time you get urged to put a tally mark in a small notebook. Specify a plan with strategies to beat them before you get the urges. We all need to stop –how are you going to overcome it? Deep breathing and drinking water are of greatest assistance to me. You can get a urge— it’s going to happen.
  6. Follow your progress and report it. Hold a log, journal or diagram so that your progress can be seen over time. For my marathon training, I used a running log and stopped smoking when I quit. Seeing how far you have come is motivating. Also, it will motivate you if you can join an online group and report on your advances every day, or if you can email family and friends about your progress.

Most importantly, stay positive at all times. I’m used to monitoring my thoughts and I would squash them like a little bug and replace them with positive thinking if I saw any negative thoughts (“I want to stop!”). I would replace them with positive thoughts. It works incredibly well. That’s the best tip of all time. You will definitely fail if you think negative thoughts. But you will certainly succeed if you think you are always positive.

Building Self-confidence

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu

For a happy and successful life, self-confidence is essential and is a quality of character that most people value when they see it in others.

Why is so self-confidence significant? It is important because it provides you with courage, self-esteem and assertiveness. You are not afraid to take risks and try new things when self-confidence is present.

You don’t allow what people think and say about you to affect you when you have self-confidence, and you don’t take things too personally. This means a quieter life. Most people aren’t born with this quality of character. You can build it up, though. You can build self-confidence by changing your mindset and attitude to life, even if you have lost it through different personal experiences.

Checklist to help you build self-confidence

Acquire a positive outlook. Instead of focusing on undesirable events and expecting the worse, try to focus on positive results and expect positive results. If your mindset has always been negative, this may not be easy. You can, however, change your mental habits and build a positive attitude with persistence. This website contains plenty of information about positive thinking. If you try to remove all negative words from your mind and vocabulary and refrain from using them in your conversation, it would help.

Set small, simple objectives. Set small, simple goals that you can achieve and achieve. This will greatly increase your trust. I’m talking about really small goals, like inviting friends to your house, organising and arranging your closet, starting to draw, or taking a day off and having fun. These little deeds will make you feel better and increase your self-confidence.

Think of what you’ve accomplished in life. Life brought failure and unhappiness, but there are certain in life and a few achievements. These do not need to be great achievements, but quite simple things, such as getting compliment from work or colleagues, having movie time with partner and getting along well with your neighbors. Reminding yourself about these accomplishments makes you realize that you have been successful in your life and not everything is failure. This would improve your self-confidence and feel better about yourself and your life.

Concentrate on what you have done and achieved, not what you have not done and have not achieved. Why gratify your mind with failure circumstances? If you keep thinking about failure, you expect it and anticipate it and attract it to you, and your sense of self-confidence is further weakened. Replace the negative picture in your mind with a success movie. This process would build your trust in yourself. Vision what you really want to be in your mind and living the life you really want.

Create a list of your successes and achievements. Take another step to build your self-confidence and create a list of your accomplishments and successes and often look at this list. Little did you know that you’ve never had success. You’re wrong about it. You might not have had great success, but you surely had some sort of success, even if only occasionally. Even cooking your family’s favorite food, having good relationships with your spouse or kids, or walking almost every day is a success.

Build a strong will. Easy to follow programs with all the instructions, guidance and exercises you need to increase your willpower, self-discipline and inner strength. Overcome procrastination, eliminate laziness and develop determination.

Emphasize your willpower. The lack of self-confidence is accompanied by lack of willpower. If you strengthen your power of will, your self-confidence will also grow strong. In many articles, I have written much about willpower and suggested exercises to strengthen it. I’ve also written a book on this subject, so there’s no need to go deeper. A stronger willpower means more assertiveness, greater self-esteem and greater trust.

Improve a positive outlook. Instead of focusing on undesirable events and expecting the worse, try to focus on positive results and expect positive results. If your mindset has always been negative, this may not be easy. You can, however, change your mental habits and build a positive attitude with persistence. This website contains plenty of information about positive thinking.

How to Improve the Quality of Your Life – Tips

Would you like to improve your life quality? You want to do that, I’m sure. You can immediately improve the quality of your life.

In fact, you can begin seeing results immediately.

It counts even to do little things, like:

-Go to sleep in the evening before.

-Wake up in the morning earlier.

-Reduce your time before the television.

These measures would enable you to spend more time and less time in the morning before you go to work.

Currently, money can improve your quality of life and you might find a more worthwhile job on your list. Many other things you can do, such as better health, relationships and peace of mind, to improve your life.

The first step is to look at your life and find out what you can do to improve your quality of life right now. The point is that you just can’t want to change your life positively.

You must decide on improvements in the quality of your life and then follow and follow your decisions.

Many people make resolutions, but they are not. It’s not enough just to decide whether and how to improve your life. You have to take action and follow your decision.

Most people have no inner strength to follow their decisions, and this causes disappointment and frustration. To make a decision, you need willpower and self- discipline and you need to keep track of irrelevant activities and not waste time and energy.

Power and autonomy aren’t so hard to develop. In fact, it can be fun and very gratifying to develop them, and you don’t have to be tough on it as you can think.

Below are a few tips that I hope will be of interest to you.

1.Discover what you can do to improve your life and think about it. These could be simple things, such a journey everyday, going to the fitness center or eating healthy food.

2. Read the self-enhancing books. Read books about themes that motivate and inspire you.

3.Write your findings and choices down on your smartphone or use a mobile app.

4. Read what you wrote every now and then, when you’ve got time.

5. Think, read books and articles, learn what to do and what to avoid to improve your food habits.

6.Find out how you want to change habits and start changing them. They’re not going to change on their own. You must take the first step, and it’s not as hard as you may think.

7. It might be harder the next step. You will have to do what you have found to improve your eating habits.

8.Visualization is an excellent tool to enhance your quality of life. Make it a custom to visualize your life as you like. Find the time to think about another and better life once in a while. Make mental pictures as real as you can and feel as though what you want is true and real.

9.The kind of life you want to live is repeatedly claimed.

10. Take any kind of meditation courses. It helps you calmer and happier and relieves stress and tension. Here you can try the techniques of meditation.

11.Enjoy your body many times. Training helps you lose weight, shapes your body and makes you stronger and more confident.

12. Do your best for yourself and others to be kind, patient, tolerant and loving. They will also treat you in the same way when you show friendship, patience, tolerance and love for others.

13.Less time to watch TV. Please use this time to read, practice your body, learn a new skill or language or do anything useful. You will be more happy and satisfied at the end of the day.

14.Clean or do anything else you need to do and you’ve never put it off in your drawers, garage or garden.

15.Choose the bright side of life to be happy and look. You will have to work day after day and do not give up if you were negative all your life. You like everyone else deserve happiness, and you will need to change your attitude if you think otherwise.

16. 16. In everything you do, try to be more resolute and confident.

Keep your eyes and mind always open and always find ideas and chances to enhance the quality of your life. Make yourself used to reading many articles on this site to help you improve and improve your quality of life. You will be provided with guidance, advice and ideas.

Top 5 Self Improvement Tips That Will lead in 2019

Well, To me, Self-improvement is to cross yourself time by time. As a person, It’s so important to take care of your improvement. Therefore, Self-improvement is the one & only way to make you perfect.

Why Self Improvement?

If you are not happy with your current position & looking to do something better, then I must tell, you need self-improvement. It will give you both physical & mental pleasure. There is no doubt that for leading a happy life self-improvement is essential.

Today, I will share you top 5 self improvement tips.

1.Believe in Euphemism

Do you know what Euphemism means? Let me describe it with an example.

Suppose, you are walking in the street. Suddenly, A crow evacuates on you. Will you be angry? Nope. You should thank the Almighty as Almighty didn’t allow the cow to fly. Haha, seems funny? But it’s the main theme of Euphemism. It will let you think positive. You will get pleasure when you find yourself positive in every work. So, I think, It can be one of the best choices to practice euphemism for self-improvement.

2.Reduce Complains

You know what, complaining is equal to helpless. If you are complaining of everything, you are a helpless guy in some ways. Try to reduce the limit of complaining. It will make you believe yourself. Only complain to those things that really matter to you. Unless you reduce it, you can’t be a self -confident guy.

3.Don’t Blame Other

Many of us used to blame other without any reason. It harms a lot to their personality. It won’t a metric of your self-improvement. Rather It forces on your personality.

Always try to take responsibility for what you have done. Don’t blame others. It will make your personality in a positive way.

4.Learn The Best Way To Communicate

Well, if you can’t communicate well, you all improvements will go to in vain. For a better self-improvement strategy, you must be a good communicator. It will help you to express yourself. Remember, A smiling face can do a great thing.

So, always to try to make yourself a good communicator. It will help you in many ways that you can’t imagine.

5.Make yourself Trust Worthy

Don’t let others get the chance to untrust you. Always make people believing you. ‘ Trust is Love’. You must be trustworthy to make a build up your relationship. No relationship goes permanently without trust.

Therefore, being a trustworthy guy, you will get yourself confident & lead your life in a pleasant way.

So, here are the top 5 tips for you to improve yourself in 2019.

3 Internal Motivations You Need to Achieve Everything You’ve Ever Wanted

3 Types of Internal Motivation to Achieve Everything You’ve Ever Wanted

Have you ever wanted something so bad, but could never achieve it? Many times, it boils down to motivation. So if want to learn how to motivate yourself so you can begin achieving your goals and being a better you, keep on reading.

Internal motivation, or intrinsic motivation, is the driving force behind your thoughts and choices regarding your career, hobbies, relationships, and other activities. It doesn’t concern itself with outside influences or external factors. Instead, internal motivation is centered on your personal desires and needs. If you’re looking for an effective way to stay motivated and create lasting change, then consider changing your focus. Try looking within.
Internal motivation occurs when you act upon your impulses without the need for external rewards, such as money or recognition. These actions are, instead, inspired by happiness, exploration, or knowledge. It could be a hobby, like gardening, or it could be a fulfilling career, such as teaching.
When you pursue an activity for the sheer joy of it, you’re doing so because you’re intrinsically motivated. You engage in the activity simply because you choose to. It means something to you. And that, in itself, can be its own reward.
Below are the 3 different types of internal motivation you can start using today:

1. The Desire to Win

In every competition, whether it is E-sports, The Olympics, Business competition, Sports, or even War, in order to be successful, every contender must exhibit the desire to win. It is this desire to win that must be translated into determination and performance. This determination to win would translate into perseverance and hard work, which is why many players devote time, effort, and even money to achieve such a goal of winning. People often say winning isn’t everything, but when it comes to competition and sportsmanship winning is everything! Without the desire to win to some degree, it’s near impossible for one to achieve the highest “medal” attainable, assuming that the competition is fierce. It is the desire to win, that allows competitors to beat all odds and overcome obstacles despite the temporary defeat. This desire to win often inspires and initiates perseverance through adversity in any competition. This desire to win, the true spirit of competition, is what one needs in any competition.
In a competitive environment, a person’s needs to have the desire to win by being attuned to the competition around them. Being aware of the surrounding competition helps to amplify one’s desire to win! One could say that the fierceness of the competition often directly impacts how much one really wants to win, which could push them to new heights in progression! This awareness of the competition around oneself would allow one to grow their desire of winning and thus allow one to set realistic goals towards the ultimate goal of winning a competition. One must also account for whether or not they want to win in the long-term or short-term. In order for one to win when the competition is fierce, one must exhibit a desire to win greater than that of other competitors. Whoever wants to win the most, WILL win! Willpower is such a strong force when it comes to winning.

The desire to win goes hand-in-hand with willpower. Willpower is the desire to overcome adversity and beat all obstacles. Willpower inspires perseverance and initiates progression in a competitor’s skill which can be emphasized through a competitor’s willingness to go through intense training so that one day he or she may bring home the “gold medal.” And striving to bring home the gold is a physical embodiment of the desire to win. In a fierce and real competition, players play mainly to WIN, not just for amusement. It is by having a strong desire to win that players can use willpower to focus heavily on the main objective of the game and work on constantly perfecting a skill, reaction time, and even mental stamina. The desire to win is a powerful driving force is applied in a healthy and purposeful way, thus driving healthy competition in the process.

“The starting point of all achievement is desire.” – Napoleon Hill

2. Purpose

Motivation itself is not an emotion but it is the purpose of all emotions, meaning that all emotions serve to motivate us to perform some kind of action. All emotions give us energy so that we can act and the willingness to act is motivation.
Behind every action, there is a motive

And behind every motive is a need. Needs are the essential triggers of motivation. Whether it be a physiological need; like the need to have food (hunger) or a social need; like the need to be accepted, a need is what induces motivation in us and drives most of our behavior. You can’t have motivation without a need and you can’t have action without motivation.

We all have needs, no doubt about that, but we all don’t have the same level of motivation to fulfill those needs. Those who do have some amount of motivation may not be motivated enough to take actions to fulfill their needs. These are types of people that usually seek motivation. They’re trying to increase their motivation level so that it reaches a threshold where they’re forced to act.
Unfortunately, many motivation-seekers keep looking for motivation forever without understanding that the sole purpose of motivation is action. Their efforts at increasing their motivation are nullified if they forget the most important part- action.

Then there are others who are highly motivated but don’t just stay that way but rather utilize their motivational energy to take powerful actions. They are the ones who succeed in fulfilling their needs and desires.

3. Mastery

This type of motivation – to become competent in one’s environment – is known as mastery motivation. While mastery motivation is shaped by experience, the desire to become competent and to continue to learn remains an important influence for many individuals.
At its core, Mastery is a simple process accessible to all of us. But before you start down the path, you need to bring two traits to the table: the relentless ability to focus deeply on a subject and a strong desire to learn.
The reason mastery of a specific craft or multiple skills is so important is because once again, it’s never ending. There isn’t a point in your journey where you can completely master something because there’s always another level to reach. With all of the internal motivators especially mastery, it becomes difficult for other people around you to understand why you work so hard. Nonetheless, being motivated this way typically means the person has no real love for what they do because if they did love what they do, the real satisfaction would come from some internal driver like winning, getting better at their craft or working on towards their purpose every single day.

“If you want to learn something, read about it. If you want to understand something, write about it. If you want to master something, teach it.” – Yogi Bhajan

Once you change not only your level of desire but also the kind of desire, you completely change the game of success for yourself because now you’re in a position where you actually want to work hard. You don’t have to feel like working hard or getting up early is a chore and I guarantee once you start to find powerful internal motivators, you’ll be surprised how much and how hard you want to work towards achieving your goals.

4 Tips on How to Embrace Change

4 tips how to embrace change

Look around you, everything is constantly changing – your body, friends, family, culture, policies, society, technology, weather, etc. For some, the idea of change is terrifying for it usually involves risk and loss, possibly of something big and someone that really matters to you like your house, job, friends, family etc.

In order to live your life, the best way, you need to be open-minded, accept and embrace change. Change is inevitable, do not resist it. That way, life gets easier. So here are a few tips on how to deal with change and how to embrace it:

Positive response

We all have personal issues and events in our lives that may make or break you. It is your response to that event and not the event itself that determines the outcome of your experience.

You can’t change the events that already happened or will happen. There are things you can’t control. You can’t stop the rate of technological change happening in the world. The internet, smartphones, Uber, Amazon, banks, Bitcoin and social media platforms like facebook, twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram are some of the changes we witnessed and have happened. Global warming, floods, droughts, earthquakes, massive layoffs, mass shootings, terrorist attacks, cyber attacks, and the rise of nationalism and populist leaders are all events that represent change.

There’s nothing much we can do about these events. But you can change your response to them and ensure that the end result and the outcome are as positive as possible. Let’s say you lose your job. You can either blame yourself for not being good enough while lying in your couch mindlessly watching tv or choose to use your free time in developing new skills and expertise. Things happened for a reason, there is a gift in it. You will always have control over how you choose to respond to things and events.

“Every negative event contains the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill

Positive outcome

Your mind is very powerful. Believe that it is possible to create positive outcomes no matter what change is happening around you. Always believe that what you want is possible. It is true that most of our beliefs were fed to us when we were children but you have the power to choose to believe a more empowering belief simply by choosing it. You can do this with so many available new techniques like EFT, Sedona Method, Heart Freedom Method and the like. So, when you find yourself faced with a big change that makes you feel overwhelmed or scary, stop and take the time to imagine the best possible outcome that could result from that change – and then simply choose to believe that you have what it takes to make that vision a reality.
Because you do!


“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

Act it

Always see yourself as a survivor, a kind of person who can easily and successfully adapt to any kind of change and then act it. The way you walk, talk, dress, thoughts you think and how you interact with other people. Ask yourself, “What kind of person do I need to be in order to achieve the best possible outcome?” What thoughts do I need to think? What pictures do I need to visualize? How do I need to behave and what do I need to do? And then start showing up as that person now.

Face your fears

Allow yourself to acknowledge and experience whatever fears show up along the way, and then take actions on it. It is scary when we you are faced with big changes and you need to a big leap into the unknown. But entering into unknown territory doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It could be the best thing that’s ever happened to you. And if you approach it as such, you greatly increase the likelihood that it will be the best thing that’s ever happened to you. Allow yourself to feel the fear and don’t let it stop you. Take one small step after another into the unknown and you will be surprised at how quickly the path forward will become clear to you, and entirely achievable.

“Change is the only constant in life.” – Heraclitus

Effective Business Presentation Tips

Effective business presentation tips

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For more leads and sales, better learners’ retention, or for whatever reason you may have, it is a must to have the best and most effective presentation. In business, it is critical to prepare and have an effective delivery, for it may lead to more sales, close important deals, and higher revenue. Below are some important notes to take in order to give an effective business presentation:

Connect with your audience

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Your presentation must fit your audience and the occasion. Formal for high profile clients and lighter when presenting to friends, students and the like. To best connect with your audience, you can animate your presentation by putting in popular quotes and recent viral news. You can also engage your audience by asking them questions. Personalize your presentation that would best fit to the interests of your audience.

Frame a story and paint a picture

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Pick the best images and visuals, especially those recent online viral pictures in your presentation. Connect those great images to your story about your business, products and or services. It will leave a longer impression to the minds of your audience. Visuals are great and easily shared in any of our social media platforms. Convey your thoughts clearly by putting relevant content in your presentation. Create a flow in your audience’s mind: Opening (get audience attention), Body (substance and purpose) and Closing (main points and highlights).

Great content

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Put all content that matters in your presentation, but be concise and not too wordy. Make sure content will appear to your audience’s interests and engagement. When you present, do emphasize, ask questions and elaborate more on the topic discussed. To give more emphasis, you can use charts and graphs based on historical data and statistics. Ensure it is align to the purpose of your presentation. Make all words, information and graphs easy to understand by your audience.

You are the presentation

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You are the subject matter expert here, so stand up straight and sound confident in your presentation. Be mindful of your body language so that you will convey expertise and confidence to your audience.
Practice if need be, either in front of your mirror or with someone. Be knowledgeable of the subject, information and data that you will be presenting. And when you are presenting, dress appropriately, have a clear voice, pleasant tone and put emphasis on the most important topics.

How to Improve Time Management to be Successful

Self-Improvement tips on time management to be more successful

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To be successful, one of the skills you should have is effective time management. To be able to reach your goals, you need to manage time well, please see below for some easy tips:
Plan ahead
It is so much easier to optimize and prioritize tasks if you plan your time in advance. Depending on your need and personality, you can do it daily, weekly or even longer time management plans. Better to create your daily planner or simple to do list in advance, like a day before you start your shift.

Don’t procrastinate

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Whether the reason is poor self-care or psychological factors, procrastination is a result of poor time management. Once you have the action items laid out, act on it without any delay. It requires a conscious effort to do all the things you can today and say no to activities that is just a waste of your time and drag down your productivity.

Set your priorities

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Set priorities ahead of time, not everything needs to be done right away. Identify your priorities, start with what’s more important and urgent and then work your way down to the least urgent and important.

The art of delegation

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Once you’re done prioritizing, you can start delegating some tasks that don’t need that much attention and or tasks that require skill sets you do not possess. Also, please set proper expectations and clear instructions to the person who will be working on those assigned tasks.

Monitor your time

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Time and motion will always give us analytics on how productive and how much productivity was lost or gain, pointing patterns and opportunities that you can work on right away to gear away from lost time.

Time is a great equalizer of time. We all have the same amount of time as the next person, regardless of race, religion, economic status etc. It’s not how much time you do have but it’s how effectively you manage your time. Use it wisely.

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Guts, Resilience, Initiative, Tenacity (GRIT) VS Intelligence Quotient (IQ)

Why Grit Is More Important Than IQ When You’re Trying To Become Successful

 
 

What’s the best predictor of success? IQ, talent, luck?

Nope. It’s ‘grit,’ more than anything else.

It is the ability to persist in something you feel passionate about and persevere when you face obstacles. This kind of passion is not about intense emotions or infatuation. It’s about having direction and commitment. When you have this kind of passion, you can stay committed to a task that may be difficult or boring.  

Grit is also about perseverance. To persevere means to stick with it; to continue working hard even after experiencing difficulty or failure.  

Research indicates that the ability to be gritty—to stick with things that are important to you and bounce back from failure—is an essential component of success independent of and beyond what talent and intelligence contribute. 

Grit is important because it is a driver of achievement and success, independent of and beyond what talent and intelligence contribute. Being naturally smart and talented are great, but to truly do well and thrive, we need the ability to persevere. Without grit, talent may be nothing more than unmet potential. It is only with effort that talent becomes a skill that leads to success. Without grit, talent may be nothing more than unmet potential. So how can you measure grit? One way was a “deceptively simple” test called a Grit Scale, which asks how much you self-identify with statements such as “I am a hard worker” to “New ideas and projects sometimes distract me from previous ones.”

Beyond IQ, talent, and whatever else has any kind of effect on anything, what most affects your ability to achieve your goals is grit. Grit is a combination of passion and perseverance, a belief that failure can be overcome. It’s a willingness to conquer challenges, instead of avoiding them.

The only person that can really push you a little bit further in life is yourself.

Grit is both a trait and a skill. Grit is that mix of passion, perseverance, and self-discipline that keeps us moving forward in spite of obstacles. Grit says, “I’ve got this.”

You can develop your capacity for grit. Your response to a challenging situation is more important the obstacle you face. Ryan Holiday says “obstacle is the way”. And you need grit to push through the obstacle every time you face a challenge.

Dr. Angela Duckworth, author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseveranceis the best-known researcher of grit, and she defines Grit as: “working strenuously toward challenges, maintaining effort and interest over years despite failures, adversity, and plateaus in progress.”

Tenacity matters so greatly because, as she explains, “effort counts twice.”

The emerging science of grit is teaching us a lot about why some people redouble their efforts when the rest of us are heading for the door. The ability to stick with and pursue a goal over a long period is an important indicator of achieving anything worthwhile in life. Grit is a better indicator of success than talent. No matter how talented you think you are, if you don’t put in the work, it will amount to nothing.

Grit begins with a growth mindset. If you strongly believe in the science of human growth in mindset, you have a greater chance of cultivating your grit over time. That belief alone can give you the perspective you need to stick with something even when the process is difficult. What can you do in small ways every day that would make it easy to take the necessary steps to pursue your life-long goals? Perseverance and resilience have a lot to do with success than you think.

Grit is essential for your success in life, but it is not attractive. Grit requires sacrifice: embrace the challenge! It’s going to get hard, right? It’s going to be difficult and you are going to want to give up. And some people, a lot of people, will. The act of becoming a master at your craft takes a lot of purposeful practice. You will experience messy frustration. Motivation will ebb and flow, but you can only improve when you commit to constant practice. You will make tons and tons of mistakes in the process. Making mistakes and failing is normal — in fact, they’re necessary.

Embrace the long repetitive process to get better. Grit takes time, and many people aren’t giving it. The cost of being the best and pushing towards meaningful work takes a lot of sacrifices. Many people are not ready for that. But the whole point here is that the positive mindset needed to get to the long-term goal can be developed over time. You can maintain the effort and interest need to finish hard. Sometimes you have to let go of something good to grasp something great. The tendency not to abandon tasks in the face of obstacles builds the resilience you need to succeed in life.

So always remember: Be proud of your work. And never quit trying.

Cultivate your grit and push yourself further outside your comfort bubble. And remember what Ryan Holiday said, “The obstacle is the way”.

How to Gain Confidence in 3 Easy steps

Gaining confidence through these 3 easy steps

Confidence is a life changer, it can really make the difference between success and failure.
Good news! Confidence can be learned, step by step. The following steps is important, like building a path, in helping us gain confidence and make the most of our lives:

Self-Perception

The way we look, sound and act reassure our confidence level that we are acting in a way that exudes self-confidence on the outside. We need to deal with any distracting habits, awkward body movements or strange facial expressions. Learning to change how we see ourselves helps us find our hidden strengths, or improve weaknesses we didn’t know we had, to get along better in life.
Accurate self-perception is a necessary component of self-improvement by is simply being aware of who we are, what we’re like, and what we’re capable of.
Adjusting our self-perception comes down to being honest with ourselves. Recognizing our weak points helps us identify when we need help. Acknowledging our strengths can give us the courage to assert ourselves even when we don’t feel like we have and deserve to.

Staying Positive

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In everything that we do, especially when we start building our paths, we will always encounter some roadblocks. They will try to stop us from moving forward. It’s essential that we deal with these confidence killers first. These are negativity, low self-esteem, and self-doubt.
We can all be positive for an hour, a day or even a week but staying positive all the time is hard. It involves our brain to be trained how to recognize, react and deal with negative thoughts. It’s important to eliminate negative thoughts before they will take out control and eat up our confidence.
When we feed our minds with positive affirmations and thoughts, we develop a more positive attitude and personality. We enjoy greater self-esteem and learn how to be confident.

Good communication skills

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With the right mindset, we are now ready to move forward along the path. Good communication skills are an essential step in gaining confidence, both listening and speaking.
Effective communication skills aren’t just about cultivating a powerful message, it’s also about being a careful and considerate listener. Becoming a more confident speaker takes time and practice. It’s a skill that must be curated over time, be patient, be kind to yourself, and work at it, bit by bit, day by day.
Learning to have better communication skills boost our confidence plus, it will help us have better engagement and relationships with others.

Allow confidence and courage to grow upon ourselves through our attitude and actions. Put ourselves out there, and make great things happen.